Distance?

So I never thought to think this, quite frankly I thought it would ruin the relationship rather than make it more positive, but has distance saved my relationship?

In recent, my apartment has been a storm of emotions and the two couples living with us have made quite the hurricane. Always swirling, and today the harsher head of the storm hit land when one couple called it quits. They say that when your thinking of making a relationship more permanent that you should try living with eachother to see how compatable you are first. To be seen more as a science experiment, theres the one couple who continued to spend all time together and the couple who learned to make individual time for theirselves. The case of couple #1, the one couple who remained independent, had their video games or had their online television as well as developed their own abilities to cope with every day emotions without the others shoulder to cry one. In the case of couple #2 who spend every waking second together, unless they had class, they are the ones who finally came so close that they cracked. She was too needy, he spoiled her, and at the slightest moment of trying to pause and have an independent moment, she couldnt handle it and called it quits. Honestly, in couple #2, she took him for granted more than she will probably ever realize. She expected the world from him, he loved her so much that he freely gave it, and then she wanted the universe. When he wanted a moment of extra time for himself, she didnt know how to cope other than comming to the conclusion that he isnt doing right by her anymore.

I hate to say it but I think distance may have saved and built the most wonderful and rich relationship that I have ever had. We met, attracted, then I left for school. The first two months we had were spent talking and getting to know eachother, and then we had our first date. Then I left again for another two months and we fell in love with eachother for who we were. Then came summer when we got to spend every day with eachother, a stark contrast to what we were used to. It was then that we could indulge in eachother's presences, learn the little maneurisms and ticks of eachother, prepare for when we would be apart again.

When we spend time apart, we still learn to become strong independent humans, able to cope with our pains and dificulties on our own, rather than building crutches upon our mates. There is a difference in supporting someone and being their crutch. We are not to hold the burden for one another, but we are there to make sure and uplift and love them so they can build the courage and strength for themselves to move on. You only do a disservice to the one you love by denying them the opportunity to strengthen themselves.

In distance, we have learned to love and support eachother since we are not physically capable of carrying the other's burdens. In distance we have come to love eachother for who we are, not for who we put a leash on day by day and have follow us around. In distance we have created the tightest of bonds and rarely ever take eachother for granted in the ways one would if they spent every waking moment with eachother attatched at the hip. In distance I have decided who I hope will still choose me in the end, because I have with an unclouded judgement chosen him for me.